Answers to Questions of Step One study
Do I accept that I cannot control another person's behavior?
Yes, but it's not easy. The thought that comes to mind is when Jacob wrestles with God. I feel like I am wrestling with God, and how silly is that. Only God is in control, not me. So why do I continue to try to control another person? I am powerless! Lord help me to implant these new concepts into my mind. By learning and incorporating these, I am preventing hurts from coming.
How do I recognize that the alcoholic is an individual with habits, characteristics and ways of reacting to daily happenings that are different from mine?
I am trying to slow down and act not react. Realize that my awareness is the first step. Understand that training myself all people are different and will react differently.
How have I tried to change others in my life?
Telling them what I think. The direction think they should go. Let's say my free advice.
What were the consequences?
Well when it is unwanted, then the consequences become an argument based on defensive excuses etc. Hurtful things are said and then a regret at the end. An endless whirlwind that is in and out of the room before you can stop it. The aftermath of the tornado is damaged feelings.
What means have I used to get what I want and need?
Pouting
What might work better to get my needs met?
Dealing with the situation.
Yes, but it's not easy. The thought that comes to mind is when Jacob wrestles with God. I feel like I am wrestling with God, and how silly is that. Only God is in control, not me. So why do I continue to try to control another person? I am powerless! Lord help me to implant these new concepts into my mind. By learning and incorporating these, I am preventing hurts from coming.
How do I recognize that the alcoholic is an individual with habits, characteristics and ways of reacting to daily happenings that are different from mine?
I am trying to slow down and act not react. Realize that my awareness is the first step. Understand that training myself all people are different and will react differently.
How have I tried to change others in my life?
Telling them what I think. The direction think they should go. Let's say my free advice.
What were the consequences?
Well when it is unwanted, then the consequences become an argument based on defensive excuses etc. Hurtful things are said and then a regret at the end. An endless whirlwind that is in and out of the room before you can stop it. The aftermath of the tornado is damaged feelings.
What means have I used to get what I want and need?
Pouting
What might work better to get my needs met?
Dealing with the situation.
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